People don’t like vulnerable people
I love a story of resilience. There is something to it, the hope that the person kept together (and mind you for a very long time than you would image), and the faith that it will get better. We see a collective trauma at times, disaster and distress. We see the news, feel distressful about it. But that’s something else, an instinctive emotion, a natural response from being a human. People don’t have that same response over someone opening up hola. We are taught to be strong. My dai once told me I have to not share things and people will take advantage of that against you. And as much as I believe that shouldn’t happen, people don’t like vulnerable people. We throw jargon, how a person should be emotionally intelligent. I still find there is this narrative on how we should be. I want to explore about emotions. I believe they should teach kids about different emotions. I often say I would be realistic rather than believe in cheap optimism. And this blog seems like yet another case of that.
I hope to be a good listener. I hope I am wrong that people don’t care. Also is it a boys thing? I can’t imagine a guy being vulnerable to to another guy and he sits there to listen. It either happens in movies or when they are drunk. The society as a whole runs on trust, yet a key component is missing, emotional dependability. It is such a big deal that you can only trust your partner for this hola. And there is this discussion on selflessness. My friend once told me that she studied a theory in economics on how parents seem to subconsciously calculate the financial expenses and potential return when giving birth to a child (bit weird theory but look at it from a specific lens). Are we as a humans selfless to any degree? I am talking absolute measure here. But again that's a philosophical discussion and we are talking about more practical stuff here.
Greatest display of kindness a person could have is giving that safe space to share. Trust me that’s a good thing and quite beautiful too depending on your perception. And I don’t understand if people see the other person as a baggage. I believe the scale of the world is alikati aligned towards the negative side (not to much but slightly). And despite me being hopeful that’s there and seems to be bound to stay. Maybe instead of being hopeful we just navigate the world as it is, idk.
